lundi 16 mars 2009

Deeper and deeper

So, the boy had night school tonight, but we managed to squeeze in a third date between work and class.  

I'm saying date, but is that really the case?  You tell me.

We met after work, went to a bar and had a couple of drinks together.  We chatted about our weekends and we talked about seeing each other later in the week.  

I'm guessing that's kind of date-ish?  No?

Problem is the whole thing only lasted an hour and a half and there was no sex.  But he did tell me that he 'liked' me.  

Is that a good sign or a bad sign?  And before you answer that one, please think about my delicate mental state where this whole thing is concerned.  Positive comments are working much better for me this week.

Reader, you know me by now.  I rarely do second dates.  I never do third dates.  

My whole world is turning on its head a little and I feel largely sick whenever I think about it.

I'm faced with a boy who is enthusiastic when we meet (boy is he) and who tells me he 'likes' me.  But then he's equally hard to pin down to a next 'date'.  Even though he refers to seeing me again throughout the conversation.

What have I got myself into?  Why have I turned into Carrie Bradshaw?  

Will someone please just tell me to calm down.  That everything will be OK.  That this is how it's supposed to be.

That it is all going to be worth it in the end.

25 commentaires:

catherine a dit…

Calm down, be yourself, que sera sera. I'm reliably informed you're awesome :)

Magdalena a dit…

Hey, everything is already OK :) No worries, he's lucky to have met you.

Thanks for an entertaining, fascinating and generous blog!

A Lewis a dit…

Umm...."The boy".....I like that.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Catherine, problem is, I'm absolutely no good at the que sera sera thing. I really can't do it. Kind of more like 'que sera will be controlled by me'...and I hate this feeling of out-of-controlness...

Magdalena, hey thanks. And nice to see you here too. Keep coming back...

Lewis, I like that too. Maybe too much.

Valleys Mam a dit…

come on over here and sit on mam's lap,let me give you a big cwtch.
It will be fine , play it cool.You don't have to have sex for it to be a date.
Small steps you said,and that's what happening you are progressing.hey he likes you, you like him.Good lasting relationships are based on liking each other.Its a good foundation.
Have faith xxxx

travelling, but not in love a dit…

VM, I like what you're saying, but I'm a-struggling, nonetheless...

alan a dit…

if this was the movies, and I was beside you, I would give you a slap across the face, in dramatic Dynasty style, and scream "Calm down Woman, for the love of god"

Date number three is good. I sense your hyperventilation is nerves. All will be well.

Valleys Mam a dit…

deep breath and say after me ,I deserve happiness I am a great guy, people like me , now i need to start liking me.
This to be done every hour for 3 days then 3 times a day for six days ,then as needed

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Alan, you make me laugh. And I so wish you were here to slap me. It's ABSOLUTELY what I need....

travelling, but not in love a dit…

VM, words of wisdom......I'll give it a whirl....

Pure Poser a dit…

first of all babes, calm down
secondly, he says he wants to see you again (ooh super. i like 4th dates!!!).

and you're not turning into carrie bradshaw because no one's face looks more like a foot than SJPs. I know thats on family guy but i can't help but agree.

Just chill darlin!

wontletlifedefineme a dit…

Calm down.
Everything is going to be okay.
The whole does-he-like-me-or-not etc. is all part of the game and I think you'll just have to wait and see how it goes. And then if he doesn't like you he's just plain stupid. :)

12ontheinside a dit…

Don't panic, everything is going to be ok. This is how these things ARE supposed to be! :)

Louise a dit…

For the love of God and all that is holy, so what if you didn't have sex!!! At least from my perspective that is a good thing. What if it was only sex all the time. I think it was your Lone Ranger posts that talked about no second dates. You just have to get over that. The third date is going to be different than the first. And the next will be even different. If you work yourself up too much over this, you'll sabotage it on your own. Chill a bit. Get some of your brother's pills! (Just kidding.) I'm not going to tell you it's going to be all right forever(even if that's what you want to hear), because I don't know. But I DO know that being overly neurotic will turn anyone off quickly. You're a VERY funny, VERY cool guy. Just be you and don't stress. What happens will happen, and it's not going to be any fun at all if you don't let yourself relax and have a fantastic time. Enjoy it! He wouldn't have been there for the 3rd date if he didn't like you. That's all there is.

The Hangar Queen a dit…

Ah,you'll be grand. Maybe he's a bit like you and feeling like he's in uncharted waters.

Here's a thought.Why not tell him?

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Poser, thank the lord I don't have a foot for a face. That's kind of awful, but very true in SJP's case...

Marjolein, I just need to not wake up feeling sick, is all...

12oti - I know. It's just so out of my comfort zone....but also very much in it too (does that make sense?)

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Louise, I'm trying to be cool and trying desperately not to be neurotic. Let's see if it works. Jeez, I'm so out of my depth, it's kind of ridiculous for a grown man to be this way....

HQ, sound advice as ever. Maybe I'll have that chat with him...

conortje a dit…

I'm already looking for a new hat

MY PARADISE a dit…

Sounded like a date to me from this end...

I think you'll be hearing from him soon for another.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Big C, stop yourself. Maybe just a new waistcoat, he he....

Paradise, me too really. And I'm starting to be a bit more 'grown up' about it....ish!

justme a dit…

Be calm! Not ALL 'dates' have to include sex!! Honestly. And that he 'likes' you is definately a good sign.
It all sounds positive to me......not that I am an expert on 'Boys'!
Looking forward to the next chapter.

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Daryl a dit…

Perhaps, you need to play hard to get .. just a bit .. he clearly is .. just think: What would Samantha do?

cb a dit…

Jesus Nancy-- take a valium!! Do NOT overthink this. Or put too much pressure on it. Just keep yourself busy (not lining away by the phone) and take the dates as they come.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Justme...the next chapter will appear...trust me!

Daryl, you always have the best advice. I love it. WWSD indeed, he he

CB - I'm going to be phoning you to calm me down dearest....lord. I'm totally overthinking here...