lundi 12 janvier 2009

Revolving doors

No sooner had I got rid of the date from Saturday night - nice guy, funny, interesting, lives on my street, not potential husband material - than the Homer Simpson Socks guy called.

Well, I say 'no sooner' but in reality there was at least four hours sleep between one leaving and the other calling. Needless to say, I wasn't particularly chirpy, nor was I thinking straight when he called.

"What are you up to?" said HSS.

"Sleeping" said I, "just sleeping".

"You want company?"

"Huh? You want to come over for a sleep?" said I. "Why would you do that?"

"No." Said HSS, "I wasn't planning on sleeping. I'll be there in ten minutes". And with that he hung up. It seemed the decision had been taken out of my hands.

That afternoon, after HSS had left, I went for a stroll on the Ile St. Louis. It's a good place for a Sunday afternoon 'blow the cobwebs away' kind of walk.

The Ile St. Louis was the place where the rich lived in ye olde Paris. Where the advisors to the king, his money-counters and architects lived and where they built their 'hôtels particuliers' - mini mansions that are today inhabited by lawyers, bankers and local celebrities. Plus ça change, eh?

I stopped for a beer at a local hostelry and took stock.

My goal of finding me a husband and settling down isn't happening. I don't know why. I'm working on the basis that it's a numbers game - the more dates I go on, the more likely I am to hit the jackpot. But I currently feel like I'm whoring my ass round town and getting lots of fun, but no happiness from the process. Maybe I have the wrong approach. Maybe I should be more selective.

This 'one-out-one-in' approach has its benefits but is it helping me to achieve my goal? I look at my coupled friends and I'm jealous. I see happy twosomes walking down the street and I get envious. Paris is so full of romantic couples that it's not a great place to be single.

But maybe I'm expecting too much. Maybe I just need to relax and recognise that things take time. And just enjoy myself in the meantime.

Who knows. Either way, it looks like HSS is planning on becoming a regular bedroom fixture so at least I won't die of desperation...

19 commentaires:

alan a dit…

You're a right Brigit jones, you are.

We'll find you someone in Cork! ;-)

The Hangar Queen a dit…

Even the cobwebs are getting blown now.

It's no fun when it seems you are the only singleton on the street.As Paris is a bit of a romantic destination it must be especially tough.At least it's solitude in splendour.

Wolves die of loneliness.Sheep die of boredom.

But Homer Simpson Socks.....well I must say.

The Hangar Queen a dit…

Hey Alan...while you're about it.....

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Alan - let's make that objective #1. Objective #2 is to just get drunk and behave badly. I guess they could go hand in hand....

HQ - I hope that makes me a wolf...perhaps in sheeps clothing. Either way, hope you don't have to witness too much ugliness in Cork with me, Alan and Big C....god help us all...

Brett a dit…

Have all the fun you can, if and when Mr right comes along you'll haver plenty of time to settle down.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Brett, I guess you're right - but I'm no spring chicken you know!

wontletlifedefineme a dit…

Hmm well, what works well for me is becoming friends with someone first, so you know if you're compatible, and wait with the making out/etc. for a bit. But I think a large part of it is the pure luck of running into the right person.

Daryl a dit…

Letting go and going along is usually the first step toward being found .. stop looking and just be looked at ... I suspect there's someone right 'round that corner

cb a dit…

I know exactly how you feel. Plus ca change, indeed.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Marjolein, I was worried that it'd be down to pure luck...hmm. That sounds difficult to control, he he.

D, I've suspected that for a long time now....

CB - birds of a feather, eh?

Valleys Mam a dit…

If you are looking for a long term relationship,then decide what you want and look for it .Dont waste your time on one offs and substandard, you are worth more than that.
Are you seeking in the right places, come on hun your a marketing man,apply the principles.
If your looking for a Aston Martin ,dont hang around vauxhall garages :>)

travelling, but not in love a dit…

VM - sound advice...although I'd settle for a sturdy, built to last Volvo at the moment...always did like a swede!

red a dit…

Sorry for being so selfish about your plight, but I love your whoring. x

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Red - I secretly love it too. Lord, that makes me a bad person, I know....

Anthony a dit…

Revolving doors, indeed

Victor a dit…

If you do stumble across the magic formula to coupledom could you post a copy to me, please?

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Anthony - I'd like to say I'm ashamed. but I'm not...

Victor; indeed. likewise....

Louise a dit…

I was never into hunting. It's better to be hunted. But then there are a lot of crazies out there who hunt. But I think you're right about the numbers game. But who knows? Maybe someone else is doing the same thing.

Did he change his socks?

travelling, but not in love a dit…

The second time around? No Homer Simpson Socks. And the guy is growing on me...