jeudi 4 décembre 2008

Having your gateau and eating it

Debbie told me yesterday that she was planning to sleep with her ex-boyfriend last night.

Whilst this was far too much information, I put it down to her being French and happy with openly discussing such matters of the, erm, heart. But then I thought about it a bit.

"Haven't you been split up for ages now? Why are you going back?" I asked, curious as ever.

"I still like to sleep with him. He likes it too. But he has a new girlfriend now"

"You say that he has a new girlfriend?" I was a bit surprised. "And so this evening is to try and win him back?"

"No. I am not interested in him. I have others now."

"So why are you going to sleep with him tonight?"

"Because". Debbie said, matter-of-factly, "Because once his new girlfriend becomes more serious she won't like him to sleep with me so often. So I'm making the most of it while I can - Je m'en profite..."

Now, as well you know dearest reader, I'm no prude. But this kind of took me by surprise.

"In France", she said "It is important to keep in touch with your ex's".

Hmm. I'm sure the person who wrote that rule meant 'keep in touch' à la 'send him a birthday card', 'say hello to his Mother in the boulangerie'.

Not, 'give him one on a Wednesday night'. Surely?

31 commentaires:

Nico a dit…

Apparently they split on friendly terms. Kind of nice, I wish it happened every time.. I'd also want to know why it is important in France to keep in touch with your exs?

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Nico, apparently they split on super-friendly terms. Which is very nice indeed....

Lane a dit…

Bizarre. I wonder why it's 'important to keep in touch'? Maybe this is where I've been going wrong all these years:-)

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Lane, who knows. I think it's all about sex, fin du jour...how very French ;-)

amy a dit…

Ah, there is so much to learn from the French, isn't there? It's either an ultrasophistication or pure egotism and selfishness, I'm not sure which...

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Amy the answer is both - but it depends whether you ask a French person or un étranger....

wontletlifedefineme a dit…

Hmm that's a bit... bizarre... I think I would freak out totally if my boyfriend still stayed in touch with his ex in such a friendly way!

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Marjolein, maybe it's just us northern europeans who find it weird...

A Lewis a dit…

Hey now, I'm liking Debbie....a lot. Yeah, those new girlfriends can really put a damper on sleeping with the old ones. They need to be more understanding!

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Lewis, I just asked her if it works the other way - would she be happy with her new boyfriend sleeping with an ex....she said it'd be fine as long as he didn't do anything other than sex (ie go on dates) with her.

Odd, but cool.

Rob (Inukshuk Adventure) a dit…

Hmmm, this gives one ideas...oh that's right I'm not French and OH wouldn't like it.

Daryl a dit…

I cant imagine breaking off and still being civil enough to talk let alone 'keep in touch' in that way .. but then I am not French, just a bitchy New Yawker

:-Daryl

Breezy a dit…

Oh god and all I get to talk about at work is what Marks & Spencer have got in their sale

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Rob, I think you've got to be french to get away with it!

D, I think bitchy New Yorker wins in this situation

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Hey Breezy, I'd love to have an Marks' handy...oh the luxe...!

I could buy english sausages there - my current 'thing I miss' (there aren't many!)

Valleys Mam a dit…

Many people have fuckbuddy that's an ex even here in Wales.
may be they just don't advertise it.
I think that's ok if you are both single, but when one or both is in a relationship.
Seems a bit ychafi to me.

12ontheinside a dit…

Well I'm not sure I'd waste my time doing it with my ex, even if we were on friendly terms. He just wasn't very good.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

VM - I'm all for fuckbuddies, and I'm pleased that Wales has adopted the concept! ha ha. Now, if only I could find me a couple....

Marjolein - let's hope he doesn't read this, eh?

Anthony a dit…

How very ... uhm ... 'European' of her ....

travelling, but not in love a dit…

LaTanya, you say 'european' I say 'sluttish', ha ha

Stew a dit…

2 recent news items that may, or may not be relevant...

french men need largest conoms in Europe and
British men and women are the most promiscuous of any major Western nation, according to research

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Stew, let me tell you that a) is so untrue as to be verging on the ridiculous and b) is completely true.

We're a nation of sluts. And proud of it.

cb a dit…

Quand en France...

Although I'm sure I murdered that, you might as well live by their rules, eh?

travelling, but not in love a dit…

CB - I try....

Stew a dit…

tbnil - it may be that the French buy the biggest condoms.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

ha ha - Stew, they certainly don't fill em if they buy em.

The spanish on the other hand...

tornwordo a dit…

We english speakers are so uptight, that's all.

Stew a dit…

Ai! Estoy lleno!

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Torny, Stew, get a room. Fight it out. Let me watch.

Louise a dit…

OK, my "variety is the spice of my life comment" did not refer to PEOPLE! All those current boy/girlfriends are extremely understanding.

travelling, but not in love a dit…

Louise, understanding is a bit of an understatement...he he...